On Purpose?

As it turns out, people don't think it's rude to ask if the pregnancy is on purpose. So far, the count is at 10. There are a few ways they ask,

"Was this on purpose?"

"This was on purpose, right?" (Ever so slightly less offensive.)

"Was this a surprise?"

"Was this planned?"

"Had you been planning this?"

And then there are the people who are very hesitant to be happy and congratulate. That triggers me to address their unspoken concerns with, "on purpose." And then the celebration begins and I shake my head and roll my eyes. Those people have not been counted in the 10.

My most recent response is,

"We've been not getting pregnant for 13 years. We're pretty good at it. So yeah, it was on purpose."

But there are a few questions I'd like to ask these people.

"Do you really think that's any of your business?"

"Are you going to be more or less happy for us if it's not on purpose?"

"Do you believe that we're not smart enough to take birth control?" (I realize that things happen, but never mind that.)

"If it was a mistake, don't you think that we might be a little embarrassed to share that with you, a practical total stranger?" (Because most of these people have been friends, but not really close friends.)

"Do you really think that's any of your business?" (Oops, did I say that twice?)

Don't get me wrong. I understand their motivation. We've been a little anti-child in the past. That was mostly an attempt to keep these same nosey people from asking us other inappropriate questions about our reproductive future. Again, none of anyone's business. I think some people (those who are closer friends/family) are just a little surprised that we've kept them out of the loop for so long. Understandable.

Also, I think some people have given up on us. I mean, it's apparently just craziness to be married for 7+ years and not reproduce. I mean, how dare we want to get our careers in order, be financially secure and be personally ready before we have kids? I guess that's just unheard of.

But, truth be told, I'm over it. At first it made me laugh, then it pissed me off, and now it's just a social experiment. We're keeping count. I'm going to sit here and think of how many people we've told and maybe poll the grandmas to see if they have any instances of it so I can come up with a accurate percentage. Yeah, I'm an engineer. I can't help myself.

Bump Pictures

As anyone who knows us might have guessed, we've set up a studio in the house to take weekly bump pictures. The studio is in the future baby's room so I guess eventually we'll have to make some adjustments.

So far, there's no progress to show but we've been practicing each week just in case. The only worthy picture so far is this one.

An Example of Heavy Objects That You Should Not Lift During Pregnancy

There's Really a Baby in There!

We had our 12-week ultrasound today. It went well. All the measurements came back normal and the baby appeared to have all its parts. It was bumping around in there pretty good. I think it was just pissed that the technician was pressing on its house. It has a grumpy attitude like Mama already! I'm so proud!

We got the DVD which was about 20 minutes long. Here are a few of the highlights.

In this clip, the technician measures "head to rump." You can see on the right side that it's only 5.63cm long. That's only 2.2 inches!

This one is zoomed in on the head and chest. I think it looks like David. Ha!



In this one, it keeps jumping around. We had to wait for a few minutes for it to chill out so she could get the measurements she needed. In the chest area, there's a little section that's sort of moving blur. That's the heart!

The color in this one represents blood flow. The big red spot in the middle is its heart. Not super exciting, but the flashing of the blood flow is the heartbeat. We got to hear it, but the video didn't come with sound.

The last one is a cross section of baby from head to butt. It starts out at the head and then when it gets down to the chest you can see the arms. It does some karate chopping and then claps! Then the cross section goes down further and you can see the butt and legs.

David's been carefully reviewing the video and has come up with the completely non-medical opinion that it's a girl. I just wanted to get that one on the record.

Heartbeat!

We had an appointment this morning and got to hear the heartbeat. It was super quiet and super fast. She had a really hard time finding it-- maybe because the baby's only the size of a plum! David and I just looked at each other like, "Was that it?" She said it sounded good and was about 170bpm.

What do you know?! I guess there really is something in there!

BFFs

I told Jodie on New Years Eve while we were lunching at Applebees. She cried. It made me cry and also laugh because I really wasn't expecting that from her. She's pretty excited and I'm excited that she's excited. I'm glad that she's very interested in what's going on with me because I think David's about done listening to me.

I told Kelly today. I was on the phone with her but had to get off quick so I sent her a text later.

Me: I have some good gossip for you to share...

        I'm pregnant!!!
        Due 30 July.

K: LOL..ok???

David and I were eating lunch and I showed him her text. We were both very confused. WTF kind of response is that? Turns out, she hadn't scrolled down so she just saw that I had good gossip and was waiting for more. When she finally scrolled down she was quite excited and expressed it through multiple texts full of "OMG", "wow!", "congrats!", etc. and lots of exclamation marks.

I'm so glad those two finally know. Who knew keeping secrets was so hard?!

We can't wait to tell work. Not because we're so excited to tell them but because we never really realized until I was pregnant how much people talk about babies. Seriously. All the time!